There is nothing I value more in this world than my family. When I had kids I thought it would just be easy to be a "good mom." But then I slowly started realizing that some of the tactics I grew up on ie:
- "Because I said so"
- Time Outs
- Rewards (bribes)
DON'T ACTUALLY WORK IN THE LONG-TERM!
Not surprisingly, as a busy mom, there was a time I was extremely frustrated and overwhelmed.
This caused me to be disconnected and short with my family.
Deep down I knew that something was "off" with some of the traditional parenting strategies I was trying to use. The "do as I say" mentality I was raised on didn't feel good now that I was the enforcer.
To be honest, I used to be scared that by the time my kids were teenagers there’d be so much disconnection between us that they’d never want to be around me. I have seen that happen all around me my whole life. (btw if that's you right now, it is NOT too late to turn things around).
I knew there had to be a better way for me to parent my children. A way that didn't result in me being frustrated and raising my voice.
And do you want to know how I knew that there must be a better way? I'll tell you a super quick story. My son, who is probably the sweetest, kindest child on the planet (I'm not biased at all) had literally started to say out loud "I'm a bad kid." He'd say it in a joking manner, but over the span of 2-3 weeks I heard him say that to himself and to me probably half a dozen times.
At first I didn't think anything of it because he'd actually say it in a funny way, but I noticed it enough that I mentioned it to my husband. We decided to bring it up over dinner one night and ask my son about it. We asked if he ever really did feel like he's a bad kid and, to my surprise, he broke down in tears.
In that moment, I realized that despite our best intentions and loving this child unconditionally, the message he was taking away from the way we were parenting was that he was a bad kid.
This is what he was telling himself over and over again in his head - this is what he was starting to believe about himself. Our children are forming beliefs about themselves every single day and if we're not careful, we can be giving them the wrong impression of themselves when we raise our voice.
So that's when I really knew something needed to change.
Fast forward to today - I am now a Certified Life & Conscious Parenting Coach and Positive Discipline Educator. I have since dedicated my life's work to learning everything I can to make the changes needed for my family and to help parents like you do the same.
With my Peaceful Parenting Process, I have been able to create a beautiful life with my family, with a culture based on love, communication, and respect.
I am now a calm, connected mom without needing to raise my voice for my kids to listen - and with my process, you can be one, too.
Certified Life Coach, World Coach Institute
Family, Youth, & Parenting Coach, World Coach Institute
Certified Conscious Parenting Coach, Jai Institute for Parenting
Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, Positive Discipline Association
B.A. Business Management, University of Tampa